Charlotte Allen of E’Lure Salon And Spa – Well Diva Wednesday

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Where do I even begin?  Our Well Diva this week is one of my sweetest, no, my absolute sweetest friend, Charlotte Allen.
I met Charlotte in the mid ’90s when we were both searching for what we wanted to do with our lives.  She had just received her degree in meteorology, and I was planning to go back to school for nutrition.  We were both working a long term temp assignment.  I recall one day she asked me how to figure out what she wanted to do with her life, career-wise, as she had quickly learned she had no interest in meteorology.  I said to her, just think of that thing that you love to do, and you think it’s a hobby.  That’s it.  That’s what you should be doing.  Charlotte heard me loud and clear, and immediately started taking classes to work towards getting her cosmetology license.
One day I came in to work really tired.  I told Charlotte how I had been up into the wee hours for several nights chatting in a Christian chat room on AOL.  She giggled as she listened to my many stories of the people I was becoming friends with online.  Then it hit me.  I said to her “Charlotte, you need to meet some of these guys I’m meeting on line. Some of them are sooo nice and so much fun!”  I don’t know many people who would have taken me up on that, but Charlotte gave me permission to pass on her email address.
I had one guy in mind, just for Charlotte.
Long story short, about 2 years later, Derrick had relocated from Dallas to Atlanta and the two were married.
Today they have almost 14 years under their belt, 2 beautiful daughters, and their new baby, E’Lure Salon and Spa.
I remember those days making little money for temp work, Charlotte was saving for her first condo.  I learned from her the value of focus.  I don’t care if you just wanted her to join you for a $1 ice cream treat, Charlotte said no.  She was focused on her goal.  And she didn’t give a rat’s azz what you thought.  The next thing I know, she was a homeowner.
I admire Charlotte for her ability to do what she needs to do to design a Well Diva Lifestyle for herself.  Many would have gone on to become a miserable meteorologist just because the education was paid for and the pay would be good.  Many would have stayed at the temp job until it became permanent, and rotted to death there doing something their heart wasn’t in.  Many would not have met the guy online recommended by a friend who hadn’t met him either.  And many would not have made the sacrifices to get that homeowner status, missing out on all the lunches, trips and fun their friends were having.  But Charlotte.
One of the many things I love about Charlotte is her ability to cheer you on and share in your celebration even if she has no idea what the hell you are celebrating.  I wonder if she sees herself in you while she is cheering so hard for you.  Wow, if she believes in me like she believes in herself, that is some powerful stuff.
Just this week Charlotte made one more dream come true – her trip to New York and surprise appearance on the Today Show!charlotte and tamrontoday show
  I have been blessed to know Charlotte, and continue to be blessed to call her my friend.  A Well Diva, indeed.

Well Diva Wednesday – Alonia Jones, Destiny Diva – Destined to Love Again

Alonia JonesHey Divas!

This week I want to share with you my Spelman sister, Alonia Jones.

There are people all over the internet claiming to be life coaches, wanting to help you get your life together.  But Alonia is one I can say I have watched grow and create a life for herself that she can use as an example of how to manifest your own customized destiny fit for a Diva.

Alonia is known as the Destiny Diva, and as she puts it, she was “born to inspire”.

I chose to present Alonia to you this week because this week she is celebrating her 2nd wedding anniversary.  I remember a couple of years ago when her wedding pictures popped up in my Facebook newsfeed.  I thought “That’s strange… I thought she was already married”.  Needless to say I didn’t know any of the details, and didn’t ask, as it didn’t overly concern me.  So I clicked LIKE and kept it moving.  But then a couple of days ago I noticed a post about celebrating two years married, and something about reuniting with someone from 30 years ago.  That’s when I put it together.  This woman did what so many women fear. Continue reading “Well Diva Wednesday — Alonia Jones, Destiny Diva — Destined to Love Again” »

Well Diva Wednesday – Surviving the Greatest Loss Imaginable

me in yountvilleWell, I tried and tried but I didn’t come up with someone I wanted to feature this week as our Well Diva… but then I thought about me.

I cannot believe in all this time I have not taken the time to share my story and let you know why I do this.  Okay, I can believe it.  I’ve just been extremely hesitant to share because

This… Is… Hard. Continue reading “Well Diva Wednesday — Surviving the Greatest Loss Imaginable” »

Welcome to Well Diva Wednesdays – First Up, Nicole Melton of Melton Digital

Nicole-Marie-Melton-DivaHey Divas!

Yesterday morning I came across a post on Erin Baynham’s facebook page, Scandalous Beauty.  I left my house all smiles after reading the testimony of this extra fly Diva, Nicole Melton.  Nicole tells her story of stepping out of the comfort zone, because, in case you didn’t know, that’s where the blessing is.  We can all use some inspiration at any given time, and I’m thankful to have come across Nicole’s story for me, and for you.

I have to admit my current project (transitioning from Soul Food Therapy to Well Diva Lifestyle) is a work in progress.  I knew I wanted to write a blog post on Wednesdays that had something to do with wellness.  But when I read Nicole’s story, I knew then I wanted to feature a Well Diva each Wednesday.  Yay!  Don’t you just love it??  BTW, my definition of a Well Diva is also a work in progress.  LOL!  But when a woman has a story that tells how she leaned on God for her next step and came out fabulous on the other side, who can deny that she is both doing Well AND a Diva?

I think Nicole’s story excited me so much because it reminds me of my life about 12 years ago.  That’s when I quit my job, packed up and moved from Atlanta to Oakland, 3 weeks later eloped, a year later had my beautiful daughter, all because I trusted Him.  Have you done something so daring because you knew it was God leading you?  I’d love to know about it, and I’m sure the Divas would too.  Share your story below.  You can read Nicole’s story here.

Oh, and Happy Well Diva Wednesday!

 

Well Diva Wellness Wednesdays and More at Well Diva Lifestyle

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If you haven’t noticed there are some changes going on here.  Sooner or later the new website will replace this one, and we will officially be located at welldiva.com.  Why the change?

1. I had the hardest time communicating the message of Soul Food Therapy when I wanted to cover so much more than food.

2.  I want to create a community of women who want to live well, eat well, and just overall be well.  I think the name Well Diva LIfestyle says that.

3.  I love soul food, but I love so many other foods, so maybe the name Soul Food Therapy was just too narrow.

Change is good, and it’s time for a change.  A few exciting things to come:

Well Diva Wednesdays – You’re already signed up here, so you can expect more regular posts about food and healthy eating, but also healthy thinking, spending, and whatever else I can pass along to you.

The Well Diva Guidebook – It’s coming along and I can’t wait to share it with you!  I can’t give too many details, but when you get it be sure to let me know what you think.

The Well Diva podcast – really excited about this collaboration with my cousin Zahra of The Natural Journey for Life.

The Well Diva Inner Circle – I’m actually in the very early planning stages of this so I’ll share more as it develops.

The Well Diva Retreat – That’s down the road but it will happen.  I’ll be sure to give plenty of notice.

That’s a lot so let me go get busy!  I’m grateful for each of you and would love your feedback on some of the plans in the works.  This is all for you, so feel free to let me know what you think!

Also, if you haven’t taken advantage of the free cleanse starting Monday, you may want to.  Almost 100 have signed up, so I know there are probably more of you out there.  Don’t miss this!  I’m not sure when I will run it again.  Sign up here and be a blessing to someone by sharing the link.

Soul Food Therapy is Getting a Much Needed Makeover!

You may have noticed, I’ve recently resumed updating my blog after a hiatus of about 6 months.

In fact, Soul Food Therapy is currently undergoing a total makeover.  Yay!  Who doesn’t love a good makeover?

I would say that I’ve come a long way, but after scrolling back to my first post in late 2009, it would be more accurate to say I’ve come full circle.  The very first post was all 100% me, and it was by far my favorite post.  I have an idea where I got off track in life which I will share one day (because you know writers write what’s in their hearts) and I’m just thankful to be able to say I’m back.
I’m in the process of building a dynamic team, starting with the addition of Raven Robinson, who has already  gone well above and beyond what I could have asked of her.  Look forward to the updated Soul Food Therapy, as it evolves over the next few months to become me on a page, in your ipod, ipad, iphone, wherever you need me to be.  I’m back, and it feels good to be home.